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Topic: Bad News
Posted By: Bob Dale
Subject: Bad News
Date Posted: 16 Feb 2012 at 11:10am
A place to post bad news, or things which are currently pissing you off et cetera.

A guy I am working with is continuously screwing up, getting in the way, or being a pain in the ass. The simplest of tasks confound him, and he is unable to keep himself busy.  At times it feels as though he's someone we're baby-sitting since we have to find tasks he can't fuck up, and constantly tell him what he ought to be doing since he can't listen to instruction or look at a situation and determine what ought to be done.





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Posted By: Rivet Head
Date Posted: 16 Feb 2012 at 1:42pm
Sounds like the lady who filled in for my while I was on vacation...spent the last couple of days fixing issues. Ugghh. 



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Posted By: Maynard Fried-San
Date Posted: 16 Feb 2012 at 1:58pm
Originally posted by Bob Dale Bob Dale wrote:

A place to post bad news, or things which are currently pissing you off et cetera.

A guy I am working with is continuously screwing up, getting in the way, or being a pain in the ass. The simplest of tasks confound him, and he is unable to keep himself busy.  At times it feels as though he's someone we're baby-sitting since we have to find tasks he can't fuck up, and constantly tell him what he ought to be doing since he can't listen to instruction or look at a situation and determine what ought to be done.




Bob, repost this under Good News 'cos next to him you'll look like the saviour of the company!

Edit: not sure Walmart needs saving, but you catch my drift!


Posted By: Bob Dale
Date Posted: 18 Feb 2012 at 3:38am
^^^

It is true, it certainly sets me and some of my co-workers apart. But being sat apart has found us placed 'in charge' of him on a number of projects. Telling him to pick up any loose trash around our area is about the only thing you don't have to hold his hand to ensure he does correctly and in a timely fashion. Should the boss come back and everyone has accomplished their task and he hasn't even started his; We all still look 'good', but his inability to perform is perceived as our inability to lead. It's kind of a catch 22, it's only as good as we make it.  We are doing a re-model at a sister store and hopefully (knock on wood) he won't be returning to our team in the coming week.


Posted By: ranonranonarat
Date Posted: 06 Mar 2012 at 2:47am
being 25 and without a university degree/rich work experience sure sucks. been trying to find a job in this economic climate now. everyday im sending out resumes and looking at job listings but they are always either looking for highly qualified individuals or those with a lot of work experience. doesn't help that my diploma (mass communication) isn't really relevant in my country.

how did you guys feel about life at 25?


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Posted By: Bob Dale
Date Posted: 06 Mar 2012 at 8:08am
Ran, I am only 26 so my advice should be taken with several grains of salt... but get out there and cut your teeth, pay your dues. Take a job that you wouldn't expect yourself to do for 'work experience' and look for other work.  I don't know how many of my friends took temp work, and surfed job sites WHILE THEY WERE WORKING at those BS temp jobs and landed jobs. 

Also, get that piece of paper. It's the difference between a job and a career.

A girl I know got a degree in Native American Studies, she got a job in HR for target and makes 45k a year with 3 weeks paid vacation, a 401k with matched contributions up to 11% of her annual income, and on and on and on.

Just don't settle, and if you can get back to school as soon as possible. The longer you stay out the harder it is to get back.  I graduated high-school in 2004, I am still 'working on college' at least that is what I tell concerned family and friends.

Life only gets harder with out a degree.

I don't know if there are trade schools out your way, but that's where I am headed once the wife and I have moved back to Oklahoma. People always need plumbing, electricity, et cetera.

If you can't find a career, find work ... sometimes the career finds you.






Posted By: Rivet Head
Date Posted: 06 Mar 2012 at 9:42am
At 25 I went back to college after working several years in the unskilled job market. I have a decent job now, but things are still rough even with a college degree. My advice is to go back to school and get some advanced training. Either a college degree or certified in a skilled trade (plumbers never run out of work). This is the 4th recession I've lived through in my lifetime (43 y/o) and I live in one of the toughest job markets (Detroit). I've looked for something better but they are offering less pay and want ridiculous education and experience levels. I don't think some of these employers are being realistic. 

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Posted By: ranonranonarat
Date Posted: 06 Mar 2012 at 10:15am
thanks for the encouragement and advice guys. means a lot to me in this situation im in right now.

i would really love to take up a proper degree but education is crazy expensive without a grant. eventually i will get down to doing it either part-time while working concurrently or to quit a job and do it full time (easier said than done). my options now are pretty much limited to either taking up a loan for a couple of years to fund further education or work a couple of years to see what i really want to do down the line, with me being more partial to the latter. the diploma i have now is somewhat similar to a college degree but to climb the corporate ladder, most companies MNC's or established local firms prefer those with bachelors. in addition, it seems to be getting and more expensive to live in singapore with the cost of housing at an all time high.

having said that, i appreciate all advice given by all you folks here. might decide to move out of this hole i am in one day and maybe seek greener pastures elsewhere but i am pretty clear that i need to work on/fulfil my short-term objectives before anything else. thanks for hearing me out guys.


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Posted By: riff
Date Posted: 06 Mar 2012 at 11:03am
Ranon, we all hit bumps when everything seems so uncertain.  Like Bob says, try something that will at least pay some bills. Your degree is in comms? Try starting a blog, hone your writing, learn how to promote it, get noticed. Things will start to happen, you will see!


Posted By: ranonranonarat
Date Posted: 06 Mar 2012 at 11:09am
Thanks Andie, appreciate it. :) Not gonna let this get me!


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Posted By: Happy Hooligan
Date Posted: 06 Mar 2012 at 11:32am
The best thing to do is to just do it.  So many people talk of doing stuff but never actually do it.  

If you can't go full time then take a few night classes.   It will take longer, but before you know it you're done.  

There is a lot of financial aid out there if you really look.   I'm still paying off my student loan and probably will till I'm 60.   




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Posted By: Dr_Heech
Date Posted: 06 Mar 2012 at 11:36am
^^Agree with Matt and Bob.
Ran, dont know how relevant this is to your situation, but I (like Rivet) went back to college after many various unskilled jobs and finally got a degree (fine art).  But never used it and instead got into the industry I worked in (temping) to fund my degree (nursing/support-work).  After ten years, got fed up so self-funded some Drystone-walling courses whilst honing my work shifts around them.  The recession hit 6 months after qualifying so just went for the first job offered (green-keeping).  I've done many other odd jobs both in the UK and spent years working abroad doing various seasonal work after buying a one-way ticket somewhere with the determination to fund-as-I-go travel.  It can be done.
Self-belief and graft and the willingness to push yourself a little further than the next guy are the things that will get you there.  What have you got to lose? Smile 


Posted By: Maynard Fried-San
Date Posted: 06 Mar 2012 at 2:41pm
Hey ran, chin up - you got a PhD in Denimology!


Posted By: ranonranonarat
Date Posted: 06 Mar 2012 at 8:40pm
Thank you all. I think I still have plenty of years ahead of me and judging by all your replies, I really should just learn to be more resilient than what I currently am and grind in more hard work. I think what I really needed was for someone to hear me out and offer opinions, as opposed to me solely ranting. I am definitely very grateful for all the precious opinions from you guys who have definitely got a lot more experience in life than I have. Thank you once again, time to work at this!

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Posted By: cash
Date Posted: 07 Mar 2012 at 7:46am
25 was one of the worst years of my life. That age is funky. You are on the bottom rung of adulthood. Anyway, the next year I met my wife, graduated college (finally) and landed my first career job. Life turned on a dime that next year.


Posted By: mr randal
Date Posted: 07 Mar 2012 at 11:38pm
Ebayer mextekila is bad news! Liar. Feedback extortionist.
(read from bottom up)





Dear kevinagogo,


Done and a negative feedback left for you!

- mextekila



Click "respond" to reply through Messages, or go to your email to reply
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From: kevinagogo
To: mextekila
Subject: Re: Item I received is not as described: mextekila sent a message about Ande Whall "Streaky Grifter" 34 x 33.5 cut like LVC '66 #180808675276
Sent Date: Mar-06-12 18:13:49 PST

Dear mextekila,

I have the pictures and offered to send them to YOU, not ebay. They measure 34 x 33.5. You bought these so probably know how nice jeans are supposed to be measured- look at the Blue in Green website. I measured the jeans exactly as they stipulate and they are 34 x 33.5.
I did not promise you an automatic refund of your shipping- look below, I said I would refund shipping if MY MEASUREMENTS were wrong. They are not.
I will not refund your shipping costs.
You may:

1- leave positive feedback and then take the $60 refund.
2- Open a case with Ebay, in which case you will probably end up AT BEST receiving the $60 refund, which I have already offered.





- kevinagogo



From: mextekila
To: kevinagogo
Subject: Re: Item I received is not as described: mextekila sent a message about Ande Whall "Streaky Grifter" 34 x 33.5 cut like LVC '66 #180808675276
Sent Date: Mar-06-12 17:56:28 PST

Dear kevinagogo,

Sorry, but I am not in agreement.
You know a lot about blue jeans and I have bought a couple of jean jackets from you before.
The measured waist is 16 inches plus a little bit (a 1/4 inches flat)making it a 32.5 waist.
The inner seam to the crotch juntion is not 33.5 inches as you state.
You say you have pictures and you could send them to eBay if you wish. I sure do not need them!!!!
The cost of sending the jeans back was $10.20 and I expect as you promised to be reimbursed for it.
Be good at keeping your word the same way I am at keeping mine.
I will only accept a full refund including the cost of shipping back and making it an issue with eBay will not help you or me.
Best regards,

- mextekila



From: kevinagogo
To: mextekila
Subject: Re: Item I received is not as described: mextekila sent a message about Ande Whall "Streaky Grifter" 34 x 33.5 cut like LVC '66 #180808675276
Sent Date: Mar-06-12 16:58:41 PST

Dear mextekila,

I just picked up the jeans from the PO and checked them- they measure exactly 34 x 33.5, as I had them listed. I have taken pictures of them being measured with a flat ruler, and would be happy to send them to you at an external email address if you like. I don't usually accept returns, and only took these since you claimed they were not as described. Since I already have them back, I will refund your purchase price, but cannot refund any shipping. If this is agreeable to you, you can go ahead and leave me positive feedback and I will then reimburse you for the purchase price.

- kevinagogo



From: mextekila
To: kevinagogo
Subject: Re: Item I received is not as described: mextekila sent a message about Ande Whall "Streaky Grifter" 34 x 33.5 cut like LVC '66 #180808675276
Sent Date: Feb-29-12 05:54:32 PST

Dear kevinagogo,

Hi,
Thanks for stepping forward so positive.
The jeans are exactly as received and have not been washed or dry cleaned.
I remeasured them again and my previous measurements stand.
Could you please reconfirm your return address?
Thank you!

- mextekila



From: kevinagogo
To: mextekila
Subject: Re: Item I received is not as described: mextekila sent a message about Ande Whall "Streaky Grifter" 34 x 33.5 cut like LVC '66 #180808675276
Sent Date: Feb-29-12 01:51:10 PST

Dear mextekila,

P.S. can you please confirm before shipping that you did not machine wash or dry these jeans.

- kevinagogo



From: mextekila
To: kevinagogo
Subject: Item I received is not as described: mextekila sent a message about Ande Whall "Streaky Grifter" 34 x 33.5 cut like LVC '66 #180808675276
Sent Date: Feb-28-12 19:21:10 PST

Dear kevinagogo,

I just returned home froma a trip and found the package with your jeans. Please be advised the inner leg is 32.5 and the waist is about 16 and a little bit inches flat. (defenetly not 34 x 33.5 as described on the title)
I need to return them back to you.
Please confirm your retun address and I would appreciate to get re-imbursed for the cost of sending them back to you. Please advise how to send them back.
Thanks!

- mextekila
                   
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Posted By: ranonranonarat
Date Posted: 08 Mar 2012 at 12:23am
are you... kevinagogo?

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Posted By: mr randal
Date Posted: 08 Mar 2012 at 1:02am
When I'm not me, yes.


Posted By: Maynard Fried-San
Date Posted: 08 Mar 2012 at 1:52am
I hear you haven't been yourself lately.


Posted By: Dr_Heech
Date Posted: 08 Mar 2012 at 7:48am

Oh have I been there before.  Ebay muppets.  You think if you exclude certain countries then they wont find you.  But they do.  They're breeding like rabbits y'know.

Mark, doesn't Kevin get fed up with you buying expensive stuff, then sellin' most of it a few month's down the line at a loss, or do you do all the ebay legwork??


Posted By: mr randal
Date Posted: 08 Mar 2012 at 9:09am
At a loss?!? Bite your tongue.


Posted By: setterman
Date Posted: 08 Mar 2012 at 9:55am
Originally posted by mr randal mr randal wrote:

                  





Kinda hard to ague with these photos.... what a jizz!  Too bad he was able to leave bad feedback.


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Posted By: ThisSunday
Date Posted: 21 Mar 2012 at 8:57am
Apparently Tebow is now a Jet. We had enough problems


Posted By: flatpattern
Date Posted: 04 Apr 2012 at 4:14pm
I'm having a BillyMurray/Gopher/Caddyshack kinda of a week, I've got a pocket gopher destroying my backyard.  He has drove me almost as mental as BillMurray.  He's killed everything that isn't a succulent/rhododendron.  I've tried smoke bombs/water/traps and I can't get him.  I'm pretty sure he comes out and does the dance when I turn my back.


Posted By: mr randal
Date Posted: 04 Apr 2012 at 5:27pm
I had to smoke bomb a gopher last year. Didn't want too, but he was excavating under a sidewalk and it was starting to cave in. Had to bomb the MF three times, after poison pellets, water, a mechanical trap, all this after two failed sound-emitting repellers. I finally got him, saw his body at the mouth of his burrow, felt awful about winning.
 The next week a family of rats moved in.


Posted By: setterman
Date Posted: 04 Apr 2012 at 6:16pm
Originally posted by flatpattern flatpattern wrote:

I'm having a BillyMurray/Gopher/Caddyshack kinda of a week, I've got a pocket gopher destroying my backyard.  He has drove me almost as mental as BillMurray.  He's killed everything that isn't a succulent/rhododendron.  I've tried smoke bombs/water/traps and I can't get him.  I'm pretty sure he comes out and does the dance when I turn my back.

Shoot him. 

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Posted By: flatpattern
Date Posted: 04 Apr 2012 at 6:51pm
the little devil is pretty gutsy too, he will pull a plant down right in front of me.  I wondered about those sound emitters and will skip that route thanks for the heads up.  I kinda of hate killing things too, was hoping that would work.  He's killed my entire vegtable garden, the only thing he doesn't like is the rapini and rhubarb.  

I might take the opportunity of having an almost plantless yard now and dig through the dirt and try to find the outhouse area like Mike said to look out for.  Maybe find some neat things.

The rat lives under my laundry room.


Posted By: Joseph Hill
Date Posted: 06 Apr 2012 at 10:27am
Get a cat.  Ours brings us a shrew a month.  My parents cat has cleared their property of rats.


Posted By: Bob Dale
Date Posted: 18 Apr 2012 at 9:47pm
I work with terrible people who for whatever reason do not like me, and are out to get me into trouble over the most trivial things.








Posted By: MC HEMMER
Date Posted: 18 Apr 2012 at 11:55pm
Do what I do at work when things get stressful, scream really loud and play juicy j so loud you can hear it from outside.


(so glad I work above a bar and get to be loud without bothering anyone)


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Posted By: ranonranonarat
Date Posted: 19 Apr 2012 at 8:25am
hate to be the negativity guy but just got out of a 3 year old long distance relationship on saturday. first love. wow, some crazy shit it is, we were spending 90% of our time apart and maintaining everything via skype and whatsapp. it feels crazy and i was snapping in and out of a mix of different emotions between love, hate, sadness and denial. been a pretty destructive person but im trying to get better. it sucks but i still want to remain best friends because that's pretty much what we've been/we were before we got into it. people have advised me against it but sometimes i think you gotta get into it yourself before you understand what everyone else is trying to say. getting better and trying harder every single day. still miss and love her like crazy. those were really good times that im really going to miss a lot.


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Posted By: fardin
Date Posted: 19 Apr 2012 at 11:09am
well first i am sorry to hear that you seperated, i have been through a long distance relationship too, so i know how it feels, for beeing best friends again it takes time, i am sure it is possible, but maybe not right away. wish you the best ran, i know as most of us here that breaking up is hard to do


Posted By: Bob Dale
Date Posted: 19 Apr 2012 at 11:38am
sorry to hear it Ranon, keep your chin up


Posted By: Dr_Heech
Date Posted: 19 Apr 2012 at 12:21pm
Feeling for you Ranon.Broken Heart
When my marriage broke up nearly three years ago, I really thought my life was over.  I really was at rock bottom.  My friend, who witnessed my subsequent breakdown, explained to me that life is emotionally a transient experience - we simply just go through a series of peaks and troughs.
 
Time is the greatest healer, when all else fails.
 
Hope you guys can work it out, however the outcome.


Posted By: Maynard Fried-San
Date Posted: 19 Apr 2012 at 2:01pm
Ranon, like the others I'm also sorry to hear this and In my experience (and believe me, I've had plenty!), time is the only thing that will make you feel better about it. I think Dr Heech is spot on with the peaks and troughs theme - surely that's better than an emotional flatline existence? Sometimes we learn from experience, sometimes we don't and just do the whole thing over again, but so what? That's what life's about.

Keep your chin up/ wallow and eat ice cream/ get drunk/ do what's right for you and gradually that chink of daylight will get brighter and brighter.

Oh, and comfort yourself with some new jeans ;)


Posted By: ranonranonarat
Date Posted: 20 Apr 2012 at 2:20pm
thank you all the advice and support, it is especially nice to hear from people like you guys whom although i have never met, feel a connection to. certainly seems tough when going through a mix of emotions all while trying to cope with work. been a bit of a crazy week but im glad the weekend is here which does make things a lot easier. been almost a week now, wound is still fresh but hopefully it starts to scab. definitely going to be a bit more cautious with love/emotions now. it is always going to be sad when the person you love becomes the person you loved.

thanks fardin and robbie for the support. really comforting words.

heech, im sorry to hear about that but im glad for you that you gotten a lot better and have seen through everything. now, you have your wonderful little boy and definitely a lot of things to look forward to in life together with him. :)

mf, cannot agree with you more about really having lived and felt pain and joy rather than a plateau of emotions. it is going to be a slow pickup from here but i guess that is how life is going to work out. that's life i guess, you always have to fight through and nothing comes easy but then at least you enjoy the fruits of your own labour and everything will be sweeter than if it was just a given to you.


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Posted By: Bob Dale
Date Posted: 08 May 2012 at 7:59pm
This evening my Grandmother passed away.

i will miss her dearly, she was an incredible woman.




Posted By: ranonranonarat
Date Posted: 09 May 2012 at 6:20am
im really sorry to hear that robbie, my thoughts are with you at this moment...

celebrate life, don't mourn death. stay strong my friend.


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Posted By: setterman
Date Posted: 23 May 2012 at 5:30am
After going back and forth about it, I finally decided to go behind my father's back and talk to his psychiatrist.  Increased inability to focus, agitation, mood swings, taking everything as criticism and a personal attack and turning it into a confrontation, obsessive behavior, etc.  Told him I know dad's cutting some of his pills to decrease dosage, but don't know if that's his heart/ high blood meds or he psychiatric medications (though I assume the latter).  I know the Dr can't discuss my fathers care with me, but he could have cared less about what I had to say, chalked up dad's confrontational-ism as "just his personality", and just wanted to get off the phone as quickly as possible.  Pretty disappointing, and not sure where to go from here.  Can't talk to dad in his current state, because like I said, if I say anything he disagrees with, it becomes a confrontation, he shuts down, and runs to his room and hides..... The most basic fucking things like "are these clothes (that are scattered all over the house) clean or dirty (so I can put them in the closet or the hamper)?" or "please don't leave your prescription pill bottles sitting on the coffee table where the dog can get at them" becomes a reason for him to have an anxiety attack and run to his room.  I'm afraid I'm going to wake up some day to find my dog overdosed and dead because he finally thought dad's pills smelled tasty.  Been dealing with my father's mental illness for going on 25 years.  Until the past few years, it was generally a winter thing where from November through March he was worthless.   Now it's getting to the point where his lows and highs aren't as dramatically different, but the depression is year round, and it's making me sick and filling me with resentment toward him.  

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Posted By: Mr Black
Date Posted: 23 May 2012 at 6:20am
Is there anyone he talks to (other than his psychiatrist) who he feels he can relate to easier? Someone who isn't directly involved in the situation who could maybe give you a steer?

I would have expected the psychiatrist to be a bit more helpful. That seems very dismissive. He has a duty of care to the patient and although he's also bound by confidentiality, if he has the patients best interests at heart then surely he could give some guidance!!

(not that I have any experience in any of this...)

Are you dealing with this alone? Do YOU have any support?


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Posted By: setterman
Date Posted: 23 May 2012 at 6:53am
Yeah, I have a close friend and my girlfriend I can lean on.  Both of them are dealing with their own family members who are mentally ill, so they've got a clue what I'm dealing with.  My girlfriend's sister has been admitted (voluntarily and involuntarily) to the local mental hospital 7 or 8 times over the past year, but can't be held there since she's not a threat to herself or anyone else.  So she continues to hear voice, think someone has bugged her house, and that she recently completed training in Georgia to become an FBI agent..... 

Pretty disappointed with my father's Dr, but I think over the course of his illness my dad has chosen Dr's that will just fill his prescription and send him on his way. So, I guess I shouldn't be too surprised at his lack of helpfulness.  I was hoping for "You should approach him this way" or "you and your mother should come to his next appointment", but I guess I was expecting too much.

Dad is closest to his older brother, and they talk daily. I've spoken to my uncle, but he either doesn't realize how sick dad is, or doesn't feel he can do anything. My mother has buried her head in the sand and said "I get enough stress at work, your father and I aren't long for the world, don't create any more stress by fighting with your dad".  Fuck, you're both in your late 60s.  There's the potential for another 10 to 20 years of illness and stress!       


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Posted By: Mr Black
Date Posted: 23 May 2012 at 7:00am
Sounds like the uncle would be the best route in. I can't directly relate, but I imagine it's EXTREMELY stressful and draining and i'm sure i'll have to go through it at some point (parents are both in their early 80's but still V healthy).




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Posted By: Sansome
Date Posted: 23 May 2012 at 11:40am
Bob- having my two grandmothers pass away in the last three years, I know what your going through and I'm sorry for your loss. Setterman - nonriveted and I have had to deal with severe mental illness in the family for the last 25 years.... Buddy I feel your pain!


Posted By: Joseph Hill
Date Posted: 08 Jun 2012 at 8:52am
Alot of folks may have heard of the shootings in Seattle originating at the Cafe Racer last week.  I only just found out that the first to go were some people I knew.  Drew Keriakedes, and Joe Albanese (Schmootzi the Clod guitar, and vocals, and Meshuganeh Joe bass).  They were musicians currently in the band God's Favorite Beefcake.  Those following the old ROYxCone contest may remember my pictures from the Orkestar Zirconium show at Cafe Racer for Drews' birthday (where they played out into the street)  GFB opened that night, and also played with members of OZ in a fantastic bizarre, vaudeville circus called Circus Contraption.  I've seen them all numerous times, and had talked with them a few times.  With respect to the victims whom I didn't know as well, here's a little bit of Drew and Joe.
 
 
 
 
 
 


Posted By: ranonranonarat
Date Posted: 11 Jun 2012 at 8:24am


joseph hill, im sorry to hear about your loss. they be making good music where they are now.




Posted By: Joseph Hill
Date Posted: 11 Jun 2012 at 10:06pm
Thanks Ran, It's not like we were best of friends, it was just one of those 'close to home' things.


Posted By: Mr Black
Date Posted: 30 Sep 2012 at 12:15pm
While not anywhere close to the above issues, I've just spilt a tin of Barbour proofing wax all over my ( current) favourite jeans.

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Posted By: Maynard Fried-San
Date Posted: 30 Sep 2012 at 12:43pm
Don't worry, I'm sure you'll be able to get another tin!


Posted By: Mr Black
Date Posted: 30 Sep 2012 at 1:01pm
Why you little.....

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Posted By: zero
Date Posted: 10 Oct 2012 at 4:33pm
Originally posted by Joseph Hill Joseph Hill wrote:

Thanks Ran, It's not like we were best of friends, it was just one of those 'close to home' things.

i remember reading about that.  Its crazy, because I grew up in Seattle, and that kind of shit never happened.  Live in Oakland now, and pretty much every other day some unlucky person gets killed.  Its messed up. 


Posted By: Bob Dale
Date Posted: 02 Nov 2012 at 3:26pm
Student Loan Debt 


Posted By: Maynard Fried-San
Date Posted: 21 Dec 2012 at 6:38pm
A couple of wankers tried to burgle my home yesterday but thankfully were stopped by a mortice lock. My kids had to step over broken glass to get back into the house. Revenge will be mine....


Posted By: Mr Black
Date Posted: 22 Dec 2012 at 2:00am
Boo

(attempted) thieving fuckers.

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Posted By: illumin8em
Date Posted: 24 Dec 2012 at 10:49pm
Girlfriend of two years informed me tonight that she never saw or wanted a future with me and my year long open preparation to follow and support her through Veterinary School was in vain. She had the nerve to ask if I would at least open my Christmas present, I told her to shove it... and then I apologized

I don't talk to anybody about this kind of thing, but I have to tell somebody or I will explode.

edit. and my grandmother passed away last night

Merry Christmas folks


Posted By: ranonranonarat
Date Posted: 25 Dec 2012 at 2:44am
sorry to hear about that illumin8em. i know how you feel about this, i was going through the same things a few months back. good luck and i hope you'll bounce back from this stronger. 

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Posted By: Maynard Fried-San
Date Posted: 25 Dec 2012 at 9:16am
^^ I hope you'd forgotten to buy her a present, that will ease the pain a bit!

Doesn't mean much but you can do the new year, new start thing, may also help.


Posted By: bandit
Date Posted: 25 Dec 2012 at 6:49pm
Sorry to hear man! Keep your head up!

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Posted By: setterman
Date Posted: 25 Dec 2012 at 7:04pm
Jeez, what a horrible Christmas illumin8em. Hopefully your grand mother's passing was as peaceful as can be hoped.  As for the heartbreak you're suffering because of the girlfriend... walk away and don't look back.  And don't apologize for not wanting to open her gift.  A couple years ago I had a woman break up with me between Thanksgiving and Christmas, but still wanted me to come by her house and open the present she'd gotten me.  Stick it in your ass honey.     

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Posted By: misterh
Date Posted: 25 Dec 2012 at 8:19pm
Hang in there illumin8em.


Posted By: danisdead
Date Posted: 25 Dec 2012 at 10:13pm
Man,  your in my prayers this Christmas season illumin8em.

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Posted By: fardin
Date Posted: 26 Dec 2012 at 3:18am
I am very Sorry for you . I we all know how the Loss feels. Your ex dies Sound like she is no loss at all. And good you didnt Take the present.


Posted By: proulxsie
Date Posted: 26 Dec 2012 at 5:43am
What a crap week you've had, I. Sorry for the loss of your grandmother. As for the relationship: at least it ended before you uprooted your life to follow her to vet school. Breakups always hurt but there is something better around the corner!

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Posted By: Rivet Head
Date Posted: 26 Dec 2012 at 11:18am
Originally posted by illumin8em illumin8em wrote:

Girlfriend of two years informed me tonight that she never saw or wanted a future with me and my year long open preparation to follow and support her through Veterinary School was in vain. She had the nerve to ask if I would at least open my Christmas present, I told her to shove it... and then I apologized

I don't talk to anybody about this kind of thing, but I have to tell somebody or I will explode.

edit. and my grandmother passed away last night

Merry Christmas folks


Fuuuuuuuck....hope it gets better for you in the new year man. Dead


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Posted By: illumin8em
Date Posted: 27 Dec 2012 at 11:24pm
Thanks for the encouragement folks, kind of embarrassed about posting it, and for feeling so sorry for myself


Posted By: Sansome
Date Posted: 27 Dec 2012 at 11:49pm
Originally posted by illumin8em illumin8em wrote:

Thanks for the encouragement folks, kind of embarrassed about posting it, and for feeling so sorry for myself

Don't feel bad, that was really messed up for that girl to waste so much of your time....she knew all along, that's a heaping load of bull shit!!!


Posted By: Nonriveted
Date Posted: 29 Dec 2012 at 9:15am
Originally posted by illumin8em illumin8em wrote:

Thanks for the encouragement folks, kind of embarrassed about posting it, and for feeling so sorry for myself


what a lame chick, good riddance....still hurts though, sorry about your grandma too, when mine died i felt like i had the flu and my chest hurt for a while...... but it subsided after a couple of weeks.....better to chat about this stuff than keep it in is my opinion....i hope your weathering it all ok


Posted By: Happy Hooligan
Date Posted: 10 Jan 2013 at 12:09pm
Just discovered today that my fedex account (which I've never used) has an invoice from last month of $43,000 on a delivery to Italy.   Calmly working with them to figure this out and get it cleared...

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Posted By: Nonriveted
Date Posted: 10 Jan 2013 at 12:21pm
Whoa, that sucks HH...hope you get that cleared up


Posted By: Bob Dale
Date Posted: 11 Jan 2013 at 7:26am
nothing near as bad as HH's bad news... but I failed 3 sections of Generals 2.  Trying to view it as a minor set-back and not a failure but it sucks because the majority of my friends/classmates are moving on without me.

 


Posted By: proulxsie
Date Posted: 11 Jan 2013 at 11:47am
Originally posted by Happy Hooligan Happy Hooligan wrote:

Just discovered today that my fedex account (which I've never used) has an invoice from last month of $43,000 on a delivery to Italy.   Calmly working with them to figure this out and get it cleared...

Holy. Shit. Good luck to you!


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Posted By: Happy Hooligan
Date Posted: 11 Jan 2013 at 12:29pm
they took it off, realized it was their mistake, then charged me $1.00 because my credit card didn't pay out $43,000!

I guess it's better than 43000, but still.


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Posted By: setterman
Date Posted: 18 Feb 2013 at 5:28am
After two abortions, and two children (both of which were given up for adoption, the second after being taken away by the state because of neglect), a couple I'm friends with paid for their daughter to get fixed.  Hear through the grape vine over the weekend that even after having her tubes tied, this girl got pregnant and had her third child recently.  Must be taking after her aunt, who has 8 or 9 kids, all out of wedlock, the father of some of them a drug dealer who's been in and out of prison. I can't help but feel the movie Idiocracy is coming true.... for every baby people like Matt and Robbie have, there's two dozen more born to scuz balls who shouldn't be reproducing at all.     

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Posted By: illumin8em
Date Posted: 18 Feb 2013 at 6:49am
^^^ Sucks! Here in my town, it is only thing people know, and families have just accepted it I guess. I was writing a short story once inspired by my ex-girlfriend ranting about sterilizing 3rd time offenders, but I couldn't figure out a happy ending.


Posted By: pablo t
Date Posted: 18 Feb 2013 at 10:50am
We had two months of joy with our wonderful pup. The nipper, especially loved her. He's been waiting for us to get a dog for nearly two years - from June we tracked down the mother of two local pooches we liked... when she next had pups, we took our choice.

Wasabi. Ate my shoelaces, nibbled the cuffs of my Full Count, and chewed the inserts of several CDs. She succumbed to a chance, unlucky attack of lungworm, the worst our vet had seen. Apart from missing her, day by day, I also have the guilt of being impatient with her on the last couple of days, not realising she was ill.








Posted By: setterman
Date Posted: 18 Feb 2013 at 11:18am
Terribly sorry for the loss Paul.  It's amazing how quickly dogs can worm their way into our hearts.  Take time to grieve, but don't be afraid to let another pup into your family.    

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Posted By: Bob Dale
Date Posted: 18 Feb 2013 at 11:46am
I work at wal-mart.

I know I've said it before, but I still work there.  It still sucks.

:/


Posted By: Dr_Heech
Date Posted: 18 Feb 2013 at 1:38pm
Originally posted by Bob Dale Bob Dale wrote:

I work at wal-mart.

I know I've said it before, but I still work there.  It still sucks.

:/




It isn't necessarily bad news Bob. I also work in a low paid job that sucks, and have been there nearly seven years despite trying for alternatives. But it pays the mortgage and gives my boy the same frills most of us enjoy.
It would be bad news if you had no job, especially with a baby on the way. At least you've got your Aircraft electronics training - the future looks bright for you, believe me!
One day Wall-mart will be a distant memory      


Posted By: attackwithstones
Date Posted: 18 Feb 2013 at 3:25pm
Paul, that is super sad news but I agree you should definitely get another dog.  I have three and they mean the world to me.  They are VERY good for the soul. 

BobDale, I know how you feel 100%.  Its like working for the devil.  But the DR speaks the truth.  If you can find another job that is better, take it and don't look back.  Check Craigslist often and scout around to see if you can find something you like more. 


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Posted By: bandit
Date Posted: 18 Feb 2013 at 9:19pm
Paul super sorry man. I still haven't gotten over mine! Which was "Bandit" if that tells you anything.




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Posted By: Bob Dale
Date Posted: 18 Feb 2013 at 9:24pm
sorry to hear about your loss Paul - - makes my 'bad news' seem rather petty.




Posted By: mr randal
Date Posted: 18 Feb 2013 at 10:09pm
Sorry about the pup, Paul. She looked like a cute thing. Don't be too hard on yourself- if only dogs and cats wouldn't be so stubborn and would just learn to speak English, so they could tell us when something was wrong.


Posted By: pablo t
Date Posted: 19 Feb 2013 at 1:41am
Originally posted by bandit bandit wrote:

Paul super sorry man. I still haven't gotten over mine! Which was "Bandit" if that tells you anything.




Thanks Cory, and everyone else. I still remember your dedication to bandit from the first time I looked at your blog, it was very poignant.

We will get another pup. It will be hard, though, with Wasabi we knew her two brothers, it wasn't a commercial breeder, hence the pups grew up around young kids and have lovely temperaments - who knows where we'll find a hound that fits in so well.


Posted By: Maynard Fried-San
Date Posted: 19 Feb 2013 at 3:25am
Really sorry to hear your bad news Paul, for you, Lady T and especially your boy. I'm sure you'll get another pup in time but you'll always treasure the memories of Wasabi. Peace


Posted By: ranonranonarat
Date Posted: 19 Feb 2013 at 5:35am
sorry about your loss paul, i have a dog myself and also love dogs in general so i can relate to that. don't be too harsh on yourself, these things happens sometimes. like what everyone else has said, take time to grieve but when you're ready, let another pup into your lives again.

bob, i think more often than not we find ourselves in situations like these. i myself haven't found anything i love doing yet so everyday i just have to tell myself that it's just work and work will always be work. keep your chin up there's still a lot ahead.


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Posted By: Maynard Fried-San
Date Posted: 19 Feb 2013 at 5:44am
Bob, even as the despotic leader of a medium-sized African republic, I don't really have the same job satisfaction I did after the coup that brought me to power 40 years ago. What I'm trying to say I suppose, is that life can get to us all at times...


Posted By: illumin8em
Date Posted: 24 Feb 2013 at 4:05pm
Crossover from a "Good news" post a few days ago. The person I sold my MF Peacoat to before I even got a chance to try it on has sent me a "item I received is not as described" wanting to return for a full refund stating

"I have several pieces of mister freedomm. I am not sure if this is because of the collaboration, but the quality of the denim and the overall quality does not match the usual mister freedom quality, as well as the fit(even though it will shrink after soak)."

This will be the third auction in a row for the buyer to do this. I understand that ebay has to see both sides, but to immediately put the funds on hold for 21 days until I cave in to accept a return or give a partial refund is codswallop. I do not offer returns, and include a disclaimer in every auction about contacting me before bidding if you are outside US. I am pretty fed up with ebay at the moment. Boohoo


Posted By: attackwithstones
Date Posted: 24 Feb 2013 at 5:48pm
Sounds like a noob! It's the same denim. I hate eBay too, it screws you if your a seller.

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Posted By: devilish
Date Posted: 03 Apr 2013 at 10:40am
Well, I got the news today that my Mum had a heart attack and has suffered some damage to the muscle as a result. Not happy right now! The thing that really sucks for me at least, is she lives back home in England and I'm in California. This makes me feel powerless and a little guilty for not being able to be there for her.


Posted By: Bob Dale
Date Posted: 03 Apr 2013 at 10:47am
^
sending positive vibes your way man -- family stuff is rough.
my dad had a stroke this past summer while my wife and I were still living in Nebraska.  It's hard to feel as though you have limited knowledge of whats going on with a person you love.

definitely thinking of and praying for you and yours


Posted By: mr randal
Date Posted: 03 Apr 2013 at 12:41pm
Devilish, sorry to hear that.
It is a common modern situation, I guess, being far away from ones parents in their older age.
 Hope she is doing well.


Posted By: Nonriveted
Date Posted: 03 Apr 2013 at 4:32pm
devilish, i am so sorry to hear about your mom..... :( makes me sad....she knows you love her.

And Pablo, your little pup....sorry to hear about that too.


Posted By: devilish
Date Posted: 04 Apr 2013 at 11:21am
Thanks for the well wishes everyone.


Posted By: illumin8em
Date Posted: 18 Apr 2013 at 10:36pm
The warm weather is finally here and has brought the thieves back out. They easily found a way into my broke down jeep and stole some random things including some shoes. So I went on the hunt today to replace them.

I am well aware that Converse have been sold and are now made all over the world, but today I was shocked. I do not have a "hip" store within 200 miles of me, that I know of at least, So my shopping is done on the internet. But a few stores carry converse which I prefer with an insole over PF Flyers. In three sores, Journey's, Shoe Carnival, and Kohl's. I tried on Chucks from China, Vietnam, India, and Indonesia. I find this terrible, and even worse, each origin had a different fitting shoe.

I'd like to go on and on but whats the use?


Posted By: Bob Dale
Date Posted: 18 Apr 2013 at 10:37pm
^^^

I feel your pain.

I truly, truly, truly feel your pain.

Check your pms.


Posted By: badseed
Date Posted: 04 May 2013 at 2:51am
Well my badsnews is probably pretty piss ant compared to real problems.

I broke my 40s pair of American Optical glasses.

I promised myself i would stop using them once the stuff from Dkatz came thru but the lens popped out while riding to work today.


AAAAArrGGHHHHjjjjjaaaaaabwabwabwahahaha


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Posted By: rayw44
Date Posted: 04 May 2013 at 6:49am
You might be able to save them. Take them to an optometrist and see if they can place it back in, assuming you didn't lose the lens on a bike, in which case I'm sorry for your loss.


Posted By: badseed
Date Posted: 04 May 2013 at 3:21pm
The lens exploded on impact

oh well


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Posted By: Bob Dale
Date Posted: 31 May 2013 at 7:19pm
Oklahoma can't catch a fucking break.


Posted By: flatpattern
Date Posted: 11 Jun 2013 at 10:35am
I got lost in the Camarillo outlets. :). Damn you have a lot of outlets in Camarillo RNR and lots of burned hills.


Posted By: Shorty Long
Date Posted: 12 Jun 2013 at 8:35am
RIP Pap




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